One of the fundamental norms of human social interaction is – You must talk when around others; if you don’t, you’re either shy, taciturn or anti-social.
Instead of ranting on how idiotic this is, and how it doesn’t take into account how some people actually like to listen and how the world needs such people, I give you Douglas Adams:
One of the things Ford Prefect had always found hardest to understand about humans was their habit of continually stating and repeating the very very obvious, as in It’s a nice day, or You’re very tall, or Oh dear you seem to have fallen down a thirty-foot well, are you alright? At first Ford had formed a theory to account for this strange behaviour. If human beings don’t keep exercising their lips, he thought, their mouths probably seize up. After a few months’ consideration and observation he abandoned this theory in favour of a new one. If they don’t keep on exercising their lips, he thought, their brains start working.
– The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy
It’s not called being silent, it’s called being quiet. Something that this too-loud world desperately needs more of.I have a spectrum of
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Not everybody is the same, and not everybody has the same level of energy to socialise, and sometimes people just need their own space. However, refuse to go out for a couple of dinner parties or choose to sit reading an interesting book instead of gossipping, and you get termed grumpy and anti-social. Classification fail.
If you are going to apply labels to people, please learn the Sociability Spectrum first:
Nuclear-bunker-er paranoiac in NW Mongolia
‘Celebrity’ with their own reality TV show
For the record, I’m selectively sociable (despite any rumours you may have heard to the contrary). I will meet with friends at random hours and often go out of my way to do so, and it’s sometimes difficult to shut me up at such times. But I also like my space and make no apologies about wanting – and enjoying – it. After all, all those books need to be read.